Am I doing it right? The struggles of ‘Adulting’


You may have heard people use the term Adulting before. When my generation usually uses it we refer to growing up, becoming responsible and taking our rightful place within society. However, there is definitely a whole more to this term and I’m typing this blog as we speak to explain to the struggle of ‘adulting’.

Adulting is the term we use when we start to get our s**t together. Once the studying is done, this is where the BIG step to becoming an adult begins. It’s the times where we discover there’s a new expense or payment we had no idea of exists and that our parents are no longer paying for. It’s for the times when we have to get ourselves out of our own sticky messes, work proper hours and pay for our own necessities to life – rent and bills being a couple. Adulting is the limbo state where we go from being a young adult to a somewhat-contributor-to-society-that-pays-minimal-tax.

But let’s face it, sometimes life gets tough and taking the step to being an adult is more of a leap, off a rock, that’s on a cliff, thousands of feet high. So there shouldn’t ever be any shame if we have to resort to going to the ‘Bank of Mum and Dad’. Right? Well if you have no intention of paying them back, or even plan to pay it back as slowly as possible, then sure it’s probably not going to be a fun experience. BUT, if you show them you can manage your finances, make reasonable repayments periodically and negotiate terms, then why the heck not!

That’s where this sweet new fintech (which I’ve recently discovered means financial technology) called Credi comes in. Think of an online platform that allows you to formalise loans and then manage them. An awesome website where you can create, negotiate and accept loan agreements with people you know- like good old ma’ and pa’. It’s even got fancy pants features like repayment schedules, interest options, SMS and email notifications, Esigning, negotiating features and SAH MUCH MORE!

Credi doesn’t just help you manage your loans on your own, it protects relationships and helps you avoid disagreements. Simply put, “it’s changing the way we lend to each other”.

So let’s put it this way, adulting is hard and let’s be honest it’s a lot harder than it uses to be. So I think an important step to becoming an adult is to take baby steps- instead of a leap- and hey those steps may include borrowing money. Loans are great and all but if your parents are financially stable enough surely there’s a way to work something out.

So don’t be too hard on yourself, work hard and have ambitions for the future but most importantly of all, enjoy your life. We need money to pay for necessities and things in life, but we should let it consume us. And hey, when the going gets tough, our parents will always be around….and so will Credi- the platform that will help eliminate the nasties that come with loaning from family and friends.


The Bank of Mum and Dad….. Um, yes please!

Bank of Mum and Dad

BOMAD – It’s a crazy idea having a Bank of Mum and Dad isn’t it? But in today’s day and age, has it become essential for the those swimming in debt from university. The question I’m trying to figure out is whether it’s a bad idea overall for us Gen X and Y’s who seek independence and spending freedom to use or even come to rely on the ‘Bank of Mum and Dad’.

The rebooted Bank and Mum and Dad got its origins in an age old lending practice. I remember being told that my grandparents used a loan from their parents to buy a restaurant in Northbridge in 1948. Even though it was an established practice back in those days it didn’t have a name – it was just what you did – get help from family, not the banks. During the early 2000s banks took over and easy credit was available. That’s changed too. Today people are increasingly turning away from the banks and relying once again on friends and family for financial support. Many of my friends are perfect examples getting support from the Bank of Mum and Dad while studying and getting on their feet.

There are significant benefits of borrowing and lending from the Bank of Mum and Dad. Many of which (or the most important to me) surround the idea of not drowning in debt.

Mortgages, credit cards, registrations, repayments, deductions, HECS and fees are some of the expenses that drain our bank accounts daily. I feel like the expenses of a Gen X and Y within today’s society are constantly growing, ultimately making myself and most of my fellow youth hate the big banks and businesses. Everything has a cost, and the lure of a small monthly direct debit sounds great, but they add up fast, and then your finances are squeezed and these monthly payments out of your bank account just keep on coming.

The idea of the BOMAD also becomes a sound idea when you consider the removal of the negative features that are attached to a bank loan or credit card. The most important one that constantly rings on my mind is the idea of interest and how much a company can make off us. From the Bank of Mum and Dad interest is hardly ever an issue and if it is there at all. It certainly isn’t ever nearly as steep as a bank loan. Another consideration is that there’s no damage to your credit rating if you are late or can’t repay for a couple of months, which let’s face it, could be detrimental in the future when you need to take on a mortgage or can’t go to the BOMAD.

However, as we look closely at the appeal of the positives of using the BOMAD, we can’t help but establish the dangers and negative aspects when borrowing from family.

For me borrowing money from my parents can turn sour very quickly. When an argument arises, bringing up a past loan and using it against me is an automatic response.

In my parent’s eye borrowing money from them also gives them the right to complain about my spending habits and that may ultimately influence them when I’ve asked for help.

Along with arguments and bitter endings when borrowing from parents comes the issue of repayments. I’ve never had the steadiest of incomes and money coming into my accounts always fluctuates. So for me skipping repayments or saying I’ll give it back soon plays from my mouth like a record on repeat. In my mind, I always hope that there’s an off chance they’ll let me off paying it back. That maybe if I don’t mention it, they’ll forget about it or even let me off. But nope, let’s not get too excited, that barely ever happens and just makes them mad that I’m not paying it back.

Besides all these relationship dramas when borrowing from the Bank of Mum and Dad, we also risk putting our parents in an undesirable financial situation. Along with all the bills and payments our parents have to pay, further expenses surrounding health tend to arise as they grow older – because let’s face it, we can’t all be young and healthy forever.

When I made the discovery of, things became a little clearer. Let’s start with their motto, “A company empowering the bank of mum and dad”, this got me searching straight away! is a platform that allows people to formalise their loans and then manage them – protecting their relationships, avoiding disagreements. Our platform provides users with transparency, flexibility and formality to informal agreements. The best thing being we don’t touch your money, we just help facilitate the process of a loan between family and friends. Not only can you navigate the system fairly easily, pretty much formulates everything for you – just add the details.

After this discovery I felt like the BOMAD wasn’t such a bad idea. Not only does it feel comforting to be able to get financial support from people we trust and love, but it can also be done in a way that can be managed like a formal loan and not impede on a relationship. Next time I need financial support from my parents, I’ll have the peace of mind knowing everything will be safe and secure through

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